How To Tame Your Jealousy
No matter how cool and confident we are, there are times when jealousy gets to everyone. We can’t help but feel envious of a friend from time to time, or get jealous of another guy or girl in our partner’s lives. If we aren’t careful, jealousy can turn into an ugly, raging monster. Here’s how to tame your jealousy and keep it under control.
- Don’t take it out on others. You might be super jealous of your best friend’s new job that comes with a big salary and their sudden ability to buy expensive stuff – that’s totally allowed. What’s not cool is taking it out on them. Being frosty towards them, making snarky comments and shutting them out are all ways in which jealousy is taking over and ruling our actions. It’s not your friend’s fault that you’re having a hard time dealing with their success, and they’ll feel hurt that they can’t share it with you. Find a way to get your frustrations out that don’t involve taking it out on your friend.
- Don’t put yourself in their shoes. When we’re jealous of someone else’s success we often wish it were us instead of them. But the truth is, their success might not be the right path for you. We are all unique and have our own ways of succeeding and excelling. What’s happening to your friend now is awesome for them and it’s the right path for them. You are living your own life on your path, so it’s not worthwhile to compare and beat yourself up. Keep moving forward in your own life to find your own unique version of success rather than trying to go after someone else’s.
You deserve someone who would jump fences to be with you. Not someone who is on the fence about being with you.
Why We Mistreat The Ones We Love
When we are frustrated, moody, upset, etc. we often let our emotions get the best of us and we take it out on the people we love. Our friends, family and partner are usually the ones who bear the brunt of our negative emotions. Why is it that we mistreat the people in our lives that we love and care for most? Here’s why we act this way and what we can do about it:
- They are always there. One of the great things about our family, friends, and partner is that they are always there for us. On the other hand, this is one of the reasons why we mistreat them – we know they will always be there. Whether we treat them nicely or snap at them, they will keep on loving us and being there. We don’t have to try to win them over or keep them in our good graces the way we do with new friends or new partners. We can let our negative emotions rule our actions, lash out, and know that they’ll forgive us. We are all human, and are bound to be grumpy or in a bad mood sometimes, so it’s comforting to know that these people will still be there for us. But the danger lies when we take it too far and treat them as permanent punching bags for our negative emotions. At some point they will have had enough so watch that you don’t cross the line. Don’t take them for granted either – after you’ve been rude or snippy with them always make sure to apologize for your actions and treat them with kindness whenever you can.
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